I reached a happy end in an environment that I trusted!
Asuman-Vedat AHRAZ – May 2005
I am 42 years old. Just like many other couples who have gone down this same road, my husband and I had ached for a baby for years. Fortunately I finally succeeded, even if it happened a bit late.We got married in Mardin. Within the first year, we went to the doctor to talk about having a baby. We tried for two years. Nobody could find the reason for our infertility.In the meantime, we had moved to Ankara. We also went to doctors there regularly. They diagnosed us with unexplained infertility. They took X-rays of my uterus, performed a laparoscopy, etc. We attempted insemination twice. Then, we started IVF treatment but it was cancelled because of an inability to follow up with the eggs.All these things were exhausting. We moved to Switzerland for my husband’s work. We lived there for 2 years.While there, we tried IVF again but it didn’t work.
We started to try microinjection but it was cancelled once more because the eggs were unfortunately missed during the follow-up. All these disappointments and failed attempts exhausted us, especially me. We took a break for a while. We even considered closing this door for good. Unfortunately the desire to have a baby never stops. Even if there exists a tiny hope, even if you pass 40 and even if you have already entered menopause, every new development makes your eyes sparkle and you hope, “Will it happen this time?” A long string of bad luck wore us out and we were drained. “Everything happens for a reason. God does not want us to have a child,” we thought.
“WE STARTED WITH A 10% CHANCE”
We then moved to Izmit.I had a friend there who was able to have a baby thanks to Bahçeci Clinic.After speaking withher, I told my husband that I wanted to try once more.After a long break, in September 2004 we applied to Bahçeci Clinic for a “final” attempt.As I said before, no matter how advanced you are in age, a small hope is enough to make you think about having a baby again.Prof. Dr. Mustafa Bahçeci told me, “You have a ten percent chance because of your age.”At first, I was completely demoralized.I asked myself,” Should I give up?”Then I thought, “I have a chance, even if it is ten percent. Even those who have a 60 percent chance may not succeed.”
I wanted to try one last time.I said, “God may will it this time.”.We tried and I got pregnant on the first attempt. It was a miracle!I was having identical twins.It was discovered that one of the babies was not developing.However, as they were identical twins, doctors could not terminate one of them.I was going through a very risky pregnancy.Dr. Esra Aksoy Jozwiak, the perinatologist of the team, said, “It took twenty years to achieve this pregnancy; we have to ensure its success.One of the babies is not developingbut we cannotterminate it.This procedure can only be performed by laser and in Paris or London.”She was monitoring me almost daily.Always fear, always anxiety.We established some contacts and went to Paris.The laser procedure was performed and we returned to Istanbul.Due to a risk of preterm delivery, I was kept under observation in the German Hospital for forty days. The baby was born in the 34th week;he arrived one week earlier than planned.Again, surprise and astonishment.My son was born on May 9th.He weighed 2 kilograms, 350 grams.We had experienced so much suffering,yet so much excitement!
“OUR HAPPINESS DOUBLED”
We tried so many times and finally we succeeded.I believed in this team a lot; I trusted them psychologically.We were moving at an unbelievably fast pace, especially starting in September.It was such a busy and whirlwind period!There was extraordinary excitement.It seemed to be the only thing that was happening in our lives.In fact, it really became the only reality in this period of our lives!As a woman, you have utterly different feelings.My husband supported me until the end; he was always by my side.To understand this desire, you do not have to be a mother. It is enough to want to be a mother!
I am Vedat Ahraz, a very new father.I became a father at the age of 46.It was my wife who was always in pain.It was upsettingto see her so exhausted and sad.We perservered only because she wanted it so badly.But it was well worth it!The Bahçeci team made us happy, andthis happiness is priceless.All we can do is recommend them and share our happiness with everybody.First of all, I want to say good luck to all the couples who want to have a baby.I advise them to be as determined as we were.Our son, Samet Can, has come a very long and difficult way.He is very precious to us.We are very, very happy!
